Sorry, this not a “Thai girlfriend guide” in the context of serious dating. This is about the “girlfriend experience” in Thailand. And a single male traveler’s guide to picking up “holiday girlfriends” and travel companions in Thailand.
Several alternative terms best describe what a “girlfriend experience” in Thailand is, and the reasons (besides sex) single male tourists hook up with Thai women for a Thai girlfriend experience (GFE) while on vacation in Thailand. Terms include “Thailand holiday girlfriend,” and more specifically for single solo male travelers seeking casual girlfriends to join them on their travels in Thailand, terms such as “female travel companion” and “Thai girlfriend travel companion” are commonly used.
A girlfriend experience might simply be a girlfriend to hang out with or; a travel guide and language interpreter, a local guide to take you sightseeing, sample the local street food, and explore the local markets and show you the best nightlife spots. Considering everything, a more appropriate description of a Thai girlfriend experience in Thailand might be “Thailand holiday girlfriends and travel guides,” or simply “Thai girlfriend guide/s”
What is a Thai girlfriend experience (GFE), exactly?
Whether you have a Thai girlfriend as a travel companion, holiday girlfriend in Thailand, or any sort of casual girlfriend, the accompanying “girlfriend experience” is like a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Meaning: besides being sleeping partners, you do things a typical boyfriend and girlfriend do, like dining out, going to the cinema, night clubbing, sightseeing, and so on.
Of course, the relationship is casual—no-strings-attached, meaning “usually” there are no emotional commitments during or afterward, but who knows what may develop.
So, a Thai girlfriend experience (GFE) in Thailand is a temporary, casual no-strings-attached girlfriend with optional benefits, including (especially for solo male travelers) a Thailand holiday girlfriend-cum-travel companion and guide. Or vice versa.
How to get a Thai girlfriend experience (GFE) in Thailand
The only practical way for single male travelers to get a casual Thai girlfriend while on vacation in Thailand is to hire one, “rent-a-girlfriend.” It’s actually not expensive to hire a girlfriend in Thailand, for a few days, a week, whatever. Neither does it mean you have to hire girls from an escort agency or book any sort of Thailand sex vacation package.
The easiest, cheapest way to hire a girlfriend in Thailand for a day, week, or any length of time is to hire a freelance girl or bar girl in Pattaya, Bangkok, Phuket, Koh Samui, or any other touristy destination with an adult nightlife scene. Alternatively, pick up girls online; that’s something you can do right now.
You don’t need to ask Thai bar girls or freelancers for a girlfriend experience; it happens by the way when you pay a bar girl or freelancer for “long-time,” which usually means overnight, for the day, or longer.
If you already know you want to take a particular girl for more than the usual “long time,” a few days, a week, or longer, you can ask her for a “long-long time” for however many days you want.
Any affectionate behavior that might happen, other than sex, like holding hands, cuddling, and kissing, depends on the chemistry between you and whether she likes you or not. So choose carefully, get to know her a little before you pay the bar-fine, especially if you’re looking for a girl to hang out with for a few days or to travel with.
The difference between bar-girls and freelancers is the price. Bar-girls are employed at the bar, so besides whatever daily rate you negotiate for a girlfriend experience, you must also pay a daily bar-fine to the bar—which could be as much as 2000 baht for a gogo dancer or other girls employed at a gogo bar.
Be upfront and honest:
Some bar-girls are husband-hunting. Being honest from the start and telling her you are totally not interested in a serious relationship will avert any illusion that the casual relationship might develop into something more serious.
What does it cost to hire a Thai girlfriend in Thailand?
Bar-fines are non-negotiable. At most girlie bars like beer-bars, the bar-fine is around 500+ baht. At gogo bars, it could be anywhere between 700 and 2000 baht. On top of the bar-fine, expect girls to ask for a minimum of 2000 baht per day; that’s negotiable.
You may find some girls go relatively cheap, more so the ones that like you, but most bar girls and freelancers are going to ask for an amount at least equal to what they earn. And you might be surprised to know some of the most in-demand bar girls, such as go-go dancers and girls working in popular short-time sex bars, make well over 5000 baht per day
If you’re sure you would like to hire a girl for an extended period, 2 or 3 weeks or even a month, you can offer her a rate for that period, for example, 30,000 baht for the month.
There is no bar-fine to pay for freelance girls; it’s merely a case of negotiating her daily rate. The only problem with freelance girls is they mainly look for customers in discos and nightclubs, as do bar-girls after working hours, as do ordinary girls who are neither bar-girls or freelancers. There is really no way to tell who is freelance and who is not—without asking, and the same applies when searching for a Thai girlfriend experience online.
Never pay for a Thai girlfriend experience in advance:
Not only might paying in advance result in a lack of incentive leading to poor service. If she is so inclined, she might slip away, never to be seen again. Pay one day at a time, day by day.
Getting a casual Thai girlfriend online:
Remember it, bookmark it, or join ThaiFriendly now; if you don’t want to receive messages in the meantime, switch off your account until you’re ready to use it. That’s it.
You can get a holiday girlfriend, GFE, travel companion whenever, even
All you need to remember is, it’s an ordinary dating site with a naughty side, meaning there are oodles and oodles of Thai girls for hire—freelancers and bar girls. Pattaya, Bangkok, Phuket, and other nightlife destinations in Thailand are the best places to search. Especially Pattaya. Very few bar girls and freelancers online make it obvious what they are looking for; their profiles are usually quite blank. You have to politely ask.
How to Handle the Thai Girlfriend Experience
Most importantly, treat her with respect, and just like you are dating any other girl, and she will respect you back. Play the boyfriend role, return her compliments and affection. However you feel about her, don’t go all soppy and gooey-eyed or say anything that might give her the impression she’s got you hooked.
The problem with having a Thai girlfriend experience is, it’s when you see the best and the worst sides of Thai bar girls and freelancers. The Thai GFE is what guys love about Thai bar girls, but having a prolonged GFE means you might get attached, even fall in love.
They say “never fall in love with a Thai bar girl,” but actually, if she genuinely loves you too, for all the right reasons, then why not? The thing is, though, if she’s a gold-digger, and many are, she will string you along, especially if you’re a kind-hearted person, and she knows you have heaps of money. So be warned, after whatever promises were made and her tearful farewell at the airport when it’s your time to go home, she might be in the arrival hall ten minutes later, waiting for her next boyfriend to arrive.