Ever since Thailand — with its raunchy nightlife scene and abundance of sexy available women became a popular holiday destination for single men, guys have traveled to Thailand seeking Thai women for sex, love, companionship, even enactment of their most erotic fantasies.
And to hook up with Thai girls for a short-term no-strings-attached “boyfriend and girlfriend” type sexual relationship for the duration of their vacation in Thailand.
No-strings-attached meaning: there are no commitments, emotional or otherwise. When it’s time to move on or go home — it’s thanks and goodbye, it’s over.
Why have a girlfriend while holidaying in Thailand?
The simple answer: the reason most single men visit Thailand is for the girls. For some guys that means enjoying Thailand’s famous adult nightlife scene, partying hard, and having lots of sex — with a countless number of Thai girls.
On the other hand:
There are guys who prefer the intimacy and companionship that goes with having a casual Thai girlfriend in Thailand, and because there are other benefits.
Benefits of having a Thai girlfriend
Having a casual — no-strings-attached girlfriend in Thailand is popularly known as a Thai girlfriend experience or GFE.
There’s the usual sex — romance and companionship, just like any other boyfriend — girlfriend relationship, without the strings of course.
For all intents and purposes, a guy who has a casual Thai girlfriend in Thailand also — coincidently has:
- A companion and Thailand travel guide, aka Thai girlfriend-cum-travel travel companion/guide or Thai holiday girlfriend
- A Thai language translator/interpreter
- An advisor and chaperone
In fact, someone to help with all things Thai — from buying bus or cinema tickets to ordering pizza. The very same things a guy would himself do for a foreign girlfriend in his own country.
In other words — a Thai girlfriend and Thailand guide, all rolled into one.
How to get a Thai girlfriend in Thailand
The only certain way for guys to get a casual girlfriend while on vacation in Thailand is to hire one — aka “rent a girlfriend”.
That means they hire a Thai bar-girl or freelancer, either online or from a bar or other adult nightlife venue where Thai bar-girls work — and freelancers hang out.
What is the difference between bar-girls and freelancers in Thailand?
Answer: bar-girls are employed by the bar, and a bar-fine must be paid to the bar before the girl can leave with a customer. Freelancers are self employed, so there is no bar-fine.
NOTE: The bar-fine is paid for each/every day a girl stays with a customer. Bar-fine prices at typical bars and beer bars are usually a few hundred baht per day. At go-go clubs the bar fine might be anything from 1000 to 3000 baht or more.
How much does a Thai girlfriend cost?
For a girl who works freelance full-time — either picked up in a bar or online, there is no bar-fine. It’s simply a case of negotiating a price — starting at MINIMUM 2000 baht per day.
Hiring a bar-girl employed at a bar or go-go club costs the daily bar-fine, plus whatever daily rate can be negotiated.
Most girls ask for a sum at least equal to their average daily earnings.
How much do Thai bar girls earn? The most stunning — in demand bar-girls, such as go-go dancers and girls working in popular short-time sex bars can earn in excess of 5000 baht per day.
How to get a Thai girlfriend online
The best way to pick up a casual girlfriend in Thailand online, today or any time, is to join a Thai dating site where “girls for hire” (Thai bar-girls and freelancers) hang out.
It’s a simple process which goes like: sign up, browse, choose, ask.
Dos and don’ts of getting a Thai girlfriend online
Do chat and meet-up: online is a handy place to find “potential” girlfriends. But do arrange a meet-up, or use video-chat and get to know them a little better.
Don’t send money in advance.
Don’t pin your hopes on one girl: In case you made a deal with a girl some weeks in advance — she WILL stand you up if a better offer comes along.
Who are bar-girls and freelancers online — how to spot them
Online, the best locations to find bar-girls and freelancers are Pattaya, Bangkok, Phuket, Koh Samui and other popular nightlife destinations. The vast majority though — have quite blank profiles.
The only sure way to know which girls are bar-girls and freelancers, and which are not is to send a message and politely ask if she is a bar-girl or freelancer, or just ask her what she is looking for.
In Pattaya there’s about a fifty percent chance that any girl with a blank profile is a freelancer or bar-girl.
Some telltale signs that a girl is a bar-girl or freelancer include:
- “freelance” or similar wording in profile info
- Showing cleavage
- Revealing/sexy photos included in their photo album
Why is online such a great place to get a Thai girlfriend?
Guys using online dating sites and apps like Tinder, and especially ThaiFriendly — have several advantages over guys who don’t.
Mainly, they can pick up girls — or ladyboys 24-7 — 365 days a year anywhere in Thailand. Or, make a list of potential girlfriends — ready to meet on arrival in Thailand. And by the way, it’s a dead handy — cheap way to meet girls in Thailand.
Hiring Thai bar girls from bars, go-go clubs and nightclubs
Hiring a Thai bar-girl long term (aka long time), whether it’s for a day, a week or a month, works in exactly the same way as hiring a girl overnight.
That means visiting bars, such as go-go bars, beer bars, discos and nightclubs, searching for an available — willing girl.
After finding a girl the next step is to negotiate her daily, weekly or monthly rate. The bar-fine must be paid every day that she does not return to the bar or club to work.
Don’t be surprised if a bar-girl or freelancer says no, either in a bar or online. Bar-girls are not press-ganged into working in a bar — it’s their choice, and neither are they compelled to go with customers if they don’t want to.
How to avoid a bad Thai girlfriend experience
Here’s what happened to my friend: He found a girlfriend online a couple of weeks before his vacation in Pattaya. He spoke to her most nights prior to his arrival in Thailand, and built up a nice rapport with her.
All good, he thought. On the very first day together, she asked him for money in advance, he gave it to her.
You probably guessed, she made her excuses and left to go somewhere, she would be back shortly, and he never saw her or his money again.
He quickly found another companion on ThaiFriendly, but his first Thai girlfriend experience was one he will never forget, for all the wrong reasons.
The golden rule is — never pay in advance, no matter how sick her dad’s buffalo is, or how badly her mother’s roof is leaking. Play safe and pay one day at a time.